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I want it now! I want to win now! I want him to like me now! I want to eat it now!

We are such a “now”-based, instant gratification type of society that we have practically zero self-control and hardly any appreciation for anything. We will become anxious, pout, post about our issues on social media, call or text our baby boos hundreds of times per day, give ultimatums … we will go so far in the impatient direction and be so over-the-top with what we desire right now, that we would rather force something and potentially screw it all up before we have the chance to let it evolve into greatness. Why? What made us so impatient? Technology? Success? Our parents? School? It’s crazy, huh? To think about what patience can actually do for us.

Think back to a time where you should’ve been patient … or maybe on the contrary, where you were patient and something turned out for the better. Maybe it was love or a promotion at work. Maybe it was with your child or parent or grandparent … maybe it was while volunteering … maybe it was for a competition or test. When you practice patience, with people, with tasks, and in certain circumstances, things happen for the better.

Patience allows you to think before you speak and to act with intention rather than on impulse. It gives you time to really analyze what’s most important. It grants you the opportunity to see the big picture and really determine whether it’s something worth pursuing or worth letting go.

The next time you're given a (possible) life-changing moment where you can practice patience, do it. Give yourself 24 hours before you act. Don't ignore someone or neglect to acknowledge what's going on because that's never a cool thing to do, but rather, dissect the issue mentally.

Whether it be cheating on a diet, responding to an argumentative text, confessing your feelings, asking for a raise, quitting a job, declining or accepting an invitation … give yourself time to decide on how to react and which course of action to take. If what you wanted to say or do changes over the next 24 hours, you’ll feel much better knowing you hadn’t acted so quickly.

And if it doesn’t change then chances are you’re learning who you are, what you truly want and need in life, and are on the right track of receiving what’s meant to be. What’s the saying—if you can’t go a day without thinking about it, chances are, you’re meant do it, be it, engage in it? … That’s not quite the saying, but you get the idea. In this case, after 24 hours, reanalyze what you wanted to do 24 hours ago and maybe now you’ll have a better idea on how to handle it.

It’s really difficult to stay patient when you want or think you need something or someone so badly. But … if somewhere in the desperation and anxiety you give yourself time to accept what’s happening and see clearer, instead of trying to force something that isn’t quite ready to come about, you will find yourself in a much better place.

Patience, ya’ll. That is the solution to 99.9% of the world’s problems. Ok, maybe not … but patience is the answer to a lot of self-inhibited problems. So, let’s learn patience.